Turning Your Crumbs into a Meal

Have you found yourself in a rut lately? Are you starting to doubt yourself? This is exactly the time you want to start looking for ways to turn your crumbs into a meal! You may not believe this, but there are always a variety of avenues for you to explore to avoid continuously finding yourself getting trapped by the same old things over and over that prevent you from moving forward.

So why do most people doubt themselves? Do you blame your parents, teachers or friends for modeling the way, or do you simply continue to enable yourself by avoiding your own reality that most likely began at an early age?

Think about it: most young children are born inquisitive, yet most young adults simply conform. As far back as I can remember I never conformed. I always tried to explore new avenues to challenge myself. Some were successful; others were not, but it did not stop me from moving forward.

I recently read an anonymous quote on the Internet that said, “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” I could not agree more. Your attitude toward yourself and your life goals is monumental for determining how quickly you will succeed in accomplishing your desired outcomes.

True success takes time! There is no such thing as an overnight success. Most people who set out to accomplish what they truly want to do start from an early age. They make strong commitments to put in the time and effort to learn and overcome negative obstacles because they truly believe in what they are doing. If you are not like those that learned early, you should not feel discouraged because you can still accomplish all your goals later in life. You simply need more time to learn from your prior experiences and then make the choice to re-focus and create the needed discipline to finally commit to pursuing your true desired passions and successful outcomes.

For example, it took me years to become a successful investor and trader. I had to painstakingly learn the basics, study the patterns, understand my mistakes, develop my trading disciplines, and learn to trust my instincts. I also had to discipline myself not to simply give up and throw in the towel just because things did not happen quickly enough or they did not always turn out the way that I expected them to.

Ray Kroc, the founder of McDonald’s, was 52 years old in 1954 when he joined McDonald’s. He then went on to build it into the most successful fast food operation in the world. Prior to McDonald’s, Kroc sold multi-mixers. When he received a request from the McDonalds’ brothers way back then to purchase 8 multi-mixers, Kroc saw an opportunity to turn crumbs into a meal. Harland “Colonel” Sanders also started his Kentucky Fried Chicken franchise after turning 50. Both men had a strong desire to follow their passion, despite the obstacles they may have encountered along the way because they believed in what they wanted to accomplish.

In my upcoming book, Growing Success: A Young Adult’s Guide to Achieving Personal and Financial Success, I talk about how one’s positive attitude and discipline are paramount to achieving great success in life. How one handles both their successes and failures determines how quickly one is able to reach their goals. When things don’t always go my way, I often tell myself, “People don’t reject me; they do me a favor!”

The next time you start to doubt yourself, take that moment to give yourself the proper attitude adjustment by asking yourself, “Is this current path or outcome really working for me?” Take the time to really become aware of all potential opportunities that lie ahead so you can align and implement your talents and skills toward accomplishing your true successful outcomes.

Start considering yourself fortunate that you are now one of the lucky people who can turn their crumbs into a meal and continue to grow your success.

Success Begins With Awareness

If you have been following my blogs on either Twitter, Facebook or my website, LarryMJacobson.com then you already know that my message for success always begins with awareness.

As a contributing author in the new #1 international best-selling book, Ready, Aim, Captivate! Put Magic in Your Message, and a Fortune in Your Future, awareness is the foundation on which the rest of your positive changes are built.

In my recent blog, T.I.M.E. for Success, I refer to awareness as Timing (e.g. identifying opportunities). To truly become successful, you always need to enhance your awareness of potential opportunities that may directly or indirectly align with your path. Being aware and recognizing your passions, desires and goals from a young age is one way of enhancing your outcomes for success. The other is your ability to be aware of your surroundings and act accordingly.

Recently, I took a flight from Los Angeles to San Francisco and I was stuck in the middle seat. During the boarding process, a young male adult had the window seat next to me in my row.  Instead of waiting for me to stand up, he just barreled over me right into his seat, despite my two requests to have him wait. I was in complete disbelief! Was this just a lack of common sense, listening or awareness? He completely ignored me in the process of getting to his seat and ultimate destination.

In the spirit of the New Year, I would like to share the following list of rules associated with Charles J. Sykes’ 1996 book, “Dumbing Down Our Kids: Why American Children Feel Good about Themselves, but Can’t Read, Write, or Add“:

The following 11 rules should serve as awareness tools for young adults and adults of all ages:

Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait ‘til you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you messed up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes. Learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rainforest from the parasites of your parents’ generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

I want to wish everyone a very happy and successful New Year!

Sliding Doors for Success

Did you ever have that feeling of disappointment when you really set your mind to doing or achieving something and it did not turn out quite the way you planned? You sat down and drew out all the action steps necessary to achieve your desired goals; you studied or learned a new skill; you spoke to others you believed were the right people that could help you get what you had been looking forward to for months and then wham; nothing.

My Dad used to refer to this unfortunate universal outcome as Man Plans; God Laughs.  Despite all your well-intentioned efforts, things don’t always turn out as you planned, but was that really by accident?

There was a 1998 movie called Sliding Doors with actress Gwyneth Paltrow that looked at one day in time and examined several possible outcomes based upon a series of different events. If this had not happened at that exact moment, then this would not have occurred, and on and on.  We all have experienced those moments at some time in our lives and it’s enough to make you crazy. But there may be some truth to all of this.

Disappointment, or more importantly negative emotions, that results from unpopular outcomes may simply be nothing more than a sliding door moment in your life ahead of something better in the near future. Although our immediate instinct is to get angry or upset at ourselves or others, maybe we just need to take that same moment to ask ourselves if that outcome was really something that we truly needed or wanted.

Rather than shutting ourselves off from other possible opportunities that may lie in our path, we could take this opportunity to pat ourselves on the back for attempting something that we thought we wanted. All the time and effort that we put in to learning something new or networking was not wasted because even though we did not accomplish our immediate goal, we did put other things into motion whether we realized it or not…and who knows what new opportunities will lie ahead as a result of those efforts?

As my friend Andrea Squibb recently reminded me when I got frustrated because things did not work out exactly as I planned, although it was nerve wracking for me, I still have my plan and I did take the necessary time to think things through. Although I did not get the immediate response that I wanted, I should still give things time to play out before I give in to my disappointment.

She also reminded me that some unexpected positive things have also recently happened to me, thanks to my good friend Jennifer Wilkov, and that I was on the right path. This was a great lesson for me to keep my eye on the positives and let the other stuff go.

I will plan to continue my efforts toward accomplishing those intended goals, but I will also remember to take the time to appreciate and accept things that may also come my way simply by keeping my eyes and ears open for unexpected detours.

Some great takeaways:

  • Don’t stay too focused on a desired outcome if it prevents you from experiencing or seeing other opportunities that lie right in front of you.
  • Keep things in perspective; “Rome wasn’t built in a day” as they say. Temper your expectations accordingly.
  • Most importantly, success is awarded to those that always follow their hearts and continue to practice patience and persistence.